TIFERET sh b’YESOD ~ Bonding Compassion in Friendship
Kabbalistic Sephirat HaOmer - ספירת העומר
Rabbi Simon Jacobson writes today in his Meaningful Life Omer: "Exercise for the day: Offer help and support in dealing with an ordeal of someone with whom you have bonded."
I go beyond, also supporting others with whom I have NOT already bonded. To 'bond' is not the reason for my sharing myself, my joy, or doing mitzvot. How about you?
Late at night I read the daily blog from a widow whom I know, rebbetzin of my rebbe, z"l, and respond to the day's writing with my own note and maybe with the gift of personalized art that I create for her. I don't think there is a bond with the woman in my regular responding, not a friendship, but I write to be supportive, wanting her to feel heard, embraced, safe, and because I do care. Because I, too, am a widow, I can understand a bit more than others of the loss and grief the widow is experiencing for almost a year. In addition, at times I can offer practical advice also out of compassion, but that does not give us a bond of friendship, even with my mostly daily responses of sending love and blesSings. I am doing this also for my rebbe, z"l, and because I can.
May the refinement work of cosmic cleansing that I do on myself during the 49 days of Kabbalistically Counting the Sephirat HaOmer help me to mamash/truly be who I am, and I am becoming. I need to delete the klipot/husks (negative influences) and again ready myself for Shavuot by strengthening, elevating and perfecting my midot/character traits.